Betrayal comes in many forms.

  • Betrayals by violations of commitment
  • Betrayals of emotional, or romantic, or sexual exclusivity
  • Betrayals by secrets, lies and deceptions
  • Coalitions with others against partner
  • Betrayals by disinterest
  • Betrayals by unfairness and lack of care
  • Betrayals by lack of sexual interest​
  • Betrayals by abuse
  • Betrayals by disrespect
  • Betrayals by not meeting each other's needs
  • Betrayals by breaking sacred promises and vows. (Gottman, 2011)
When betrayal happens, the one who has betrayed needs to atone for what has been done.  The couple needs to attune themselves to one another and then attach physically and emotionally.  That process is best navigated with a therapist who specializes in helping couples through betrayal.

Compulsive Sexual Behaviors/Sexual Addictions


When one is "engaged in compulsive out-of-control sexual behaviors that negatively impact his or her life or the lives of those in relationships with the person, yet he or she is unable or does not want to stop" (Steffens, 2009) it is a good idea to meet with a professional who specializes in compulsive sexual behaviors/addictions to assess the full scope of the issue and to identify ways to move towards addressing those issues.
While Beckie specializes in betrayal trauma therapy as well as in couples therapy when betrayal has occurred, Beckie does not specialize in treating compulsive sexual behaviors or sexual addictions.  Within the same office Beckie has a dear friend and colleague who does specialize in addictions and who provides excellent therapy.  Click below to connect with Bo Buchi, CMHC, LVRC, MBA.  By seeing Bo, treatment can be coordinated (with your permission) so that it can be as seamless as possible.